Remembering Resilience

This is my first article for the Deepening Resilience project, a 12-week community blog project (coordinated by me). In each post, I hope to include scientific/academic information, discussion, and practices you can engage with. Check out the website for posts from other writers, and please consider joining the conversation yourself.

Defining Resilience

Resilience has become a bit of a buzzword, and as such the meaning has become muddied. The concept has roots in multiple disciplines. Ecological resilience is defined as “the capacity of a system to absorb disturbance and reorganize while undergoing change so as to still retain essentially the same function, structure, identity, and feedbacks.” (Wikipedia) It can also be defined as the property that mediates transition among the existence of multiple states of stability. (Abstract) Social resilience is the individual/community ability to adapt when experiencing adversity or trauma. Psychological resilience is considered to be an inherent individual trait that can be developed. These slightly different meanings are integrated in the social-ecological system, which emphasizes “the integrated concept of humans in nature … the delineation between social systems and ecological systems is artificial and arbitrary. … [T]he SES approach holds that social and ecological systems are linked through feedback mechanisms, and that both display resilience and complexity.” (Wikipedia) The application of these concepts in the context of global climate change has given rise to the field of climate resilience.

A huge galaxy shines brightly amidst smaller galaxies.
Concept image of the brightest galaxy in the universe by NASA

Deepening Resilience

Resilience has been an issue of importance in my life for quite some time; I’ve experienced my share of trauma and I’ve been asked how I manage to ‘keep going’ in the face of such pain and adversity. The truth is, I haven’t always been able to keep going… and sometimes continuing in the same way is the wrong thing to do. Resilience is not maintaining the status quo, acting as if nothing is happening – it is adapting to situations so that the larger system can go on, and sometimes that means finding another version of stability.

As humans are a part of complex ecological systems, our resilience is intimately tied with ecological resilience. We can see this writ large as we reach peak oil and the climate changes. Human actions have threatened life on the planet, and now our lives are threatened by environmental disasters, changes to food and water supplies, and of course, each other. One of the greatest challenges we face in climate change may not be the ecological changes themselves; it may be the reactions of people in power, the violence that is sure to escalate as resources dwindle, the disaster capitalists and war-mongers that swoop in to take advantage of the chaos. We must always remember that those who suffer the most are people who contributed the least to climate change, who are already marginalized, who have had their resources stolen. These are the people – and it includes many of you reading this – who I worry about, and who I hope can develop resilience in themselves and in their communities.

To be clear, I do not ascribe to the anti-civilization or the ‘humans are a virus’ mindsets, neither do I see humans as the most important members of ecological systems. I also don’t view climate change as an ideal opportunity to enact some futuristic utopia. But I do believe that humans remembering our place within the great web of life is the kind of humbling and empowering medicine that we need in the age of the Anthropocene. The world is suffering, and it will take our hearts, our minds, and our service to ease that suffering.

This is where my work towards resilience rests. I envision resilience in the place where the spiritual-social-ecological meets. It is where I try to navigate how to reconnect with place in a world that is suffering, how to resource myself amidst that pain, and how to prepare myself and others for what is to come, all while acknowledging and working through the many intersections of privilege and oppression that weave through my life. This is not a part of the seven principles for building social-ecological resilience; it is not necessarily the purview of scientific thought, but it is no less important.

This is one reason why the Deepening Resilience project is so important; there is so much need for earth-centered spirituality and socially intersectional perspectives on climate change. But it must also be acknowledged that Indigenous cultures around the world have been advocating for earth-centered responses to climate change, and as such this effort is neither new nor unique. Pagans who have settled on non-ancestral land have the responsibility to talk about these perspectives within our own communities, and to step back and offer our respect and reparations to Indigenous communities.

If you sit still in the dark, breathing quietly, the world will come to life around you. Astonishment will rise in you like the slow tide, sliding in under the soles of your feet. And then you will understand: you are kin in a family of living things, aware in a world of awareness, alive in a world of lives … Every breath you take weaves you into the fabric of life. — Kathleen Dean Moore

Practice

The way that I work towards developing spiritual-social-ecological resilience is by engaging in practices that reconnect me with the web of life, and then by helping others find their own connections. Here are two practices to try:

Breath of Life

This practice is ideally done in your favorite place outdoors, but it can be done wherever you are comfortable. Ground and center as you normally do (or try this if you don’t have a practice). Breathe naturally, noticing the world around you. Feel the air entering through your nose, flowing down your passages into your lungs. Notice the rise of your chest and stomach. Feel the air exiting your mouth, warm as it passes your tongue. Notice the fall of your chest and stomach.

Now imagine the world breathing with you. The plants exhale as you inhale, producing the oxygen you breathe. The birds and reptiles and mammals small and large all breathe with you. You inhale particles of earth and decay, connecting you with the soil and mycelium beneath your feet, with all of the beings that have lived and died. Can you hear the world breathing? Can you begin to sense your connection with the web of life? Continue breathing and noticing the world around you; notice the clouds passing by, the activity of animals around you, the sound of the wind. Just keep breathing and noticing for as long as you can, allowing “the world to come to life around you.”

Remembering

I have recorded this 10-minute guided meditation drawing on parts of Evolutionary Remembering and Gaia Meditations by Joanna Macy, John Seed, and Pat Fleming, part of the The Work That Reconnects. Settle into a comfortable position and then listen to a journey through the birth of the universe and the elements that make up our bodies.

You can also try the following on your own: Visualize the birth of the universe, from the Big Bang to the creation of our galaxy, the Sun then our planet Earth. Visualize the geologic evolutionary processes that led to life on earth, from the first volcanic eruptions to the boiling seas and the meteors that brought the building blocks of life. See the first cellular organisms, the plants that began to create our atmosphere, the fish that swam in the sea slowly making their way to land. Continue to imagine the evolution of life on the planet.

There are many resources online to help you visualize this process. This is a cool video of the birth of the universe (that I recommend watching without sound). This is a fun video of evolution meant for youth but enjoyable for adults too (or the youth within).


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Grief is Natural: an Elemental Journey Through Loss

Grief is Natural: an Elemental Journey Through Loss is a creative experience of exploring grief and understanding loss. Utilizing an elemental framework, we will seek the alchemy of fire, water, air, earth, and spirit to transform grief from a taboo to an integral part of life.

Grieving is holy work. It is a natural part of life. It is as much a part of us as love, or breath, or birth. As much a part of daily life as eating, or the singing of birds.

Unfortunately, western culture is extremely deathphobic and grief separatist. Our culture treats grief like an illness, to be dealt with in the sick rooms of our own hearts, never to be brought into public view — or what? we will infect others? It is this avoidance of grief that creates illness – the illness of separation and unhealthy expressions of emotion (or lack thereof).

We must grieve before we can create. We must learn to mourn what has been lost before we can build something better. We must honor that which is hungry and grief stricken within us. We must give voice and space to grief and to celebration.

This 7 module course is designed to inspire you to explore your grief, to embrace your losses, and to build a new world from the ashes. It includes creative exercises, journaling, meditation practices, and ritual suggestions. It is appropriate for everyone, regardless of your level of experience with the exercises or your spiritual background. You only need a willingness to sit in the holy space of your grief.

This course will available to my patrons at the $10+ tiers. You will receive the course before anyone else. The first two modules are ready to post at the end of the week. The remaining five modules will be posted over the next 6-8 weeks. That means you can access the beta version of this course for as little as $20. You will have the opportunity to provide feedback, helping to fine-tune the experience. You will also have the option of being listed in the course acknowledgements, with a link to your online presence.

To participate, sign up at my Patreon for a pledge of $10/month or more. (Sneak preview: patrons at $13/mo or more will be receiving access to another course early next year). You can delete your pledge at anytime. Already a patron? Just increase your pledge to $10 or more to receive the content.

Thank you for support and please do spread the word!

In Grief and Gratitude,
Syren

Grief Meditation

This experience is designed to help you unlock the grief that is being held in your body, trapped behind the barrier that says accessing the depths of our grief is not acceptable. It is written in response to the question “how do I access my grief?”. I use a variation of this in my grief ceremonies.

Gather your tissues and a shawl, scarf, or blanket. Have some music or a tool of sound ready. Find a quiet, dark place or somewhere you feel safe. You may want to do this with a friend present – having someone witness our grief can be profoundly healing – but it is not necessary. Meet yourself wherever you are, with whatever limitations you have. The most important thing is to just be in this moment with your grief.

Start breathing deeply but do not force your breath, let it come naturally. As you breathe, think about what you are grieving. It could be anything, one thing or many things. Grief is complex, it does not fall neatly into boxes. Think about what you are grieving, let the memories come to you. As you start to think about it, notice the feelings that arise. Notice the sensations in your body.

Now, ask your grief, those sensations, what they want. Let the answer come naturally – it too may be a sensation or feeling.

If it starts to feel like too much, or if you start to feel resistance, tell yourself that this is only for this moment. That after this exercise, you can return to your normal activities, but for now you are going to do this, even if it is only pretend.

Continue breathing into those feelings, and into the places in your body that are experiencing a sensation. Perhaps there is a tightness in your throat? A heaviness in your chest? A clenching in your gut? Really focus on those sensations, feel them, and let them rise.

Let yourself make a sound. It can be any sound. Maybe it is a chuckle, or a sob, or a soft moan or a single word or phrase. Give yourself permission to give a sound to your grief. If nothing comes out right away, fake it and make any sound. Have you ever started laughing and then found yourself sobbing? The process will unlock itself.

Do not censor yourself. Let whatever sound needs to come out, come out. Keep feeling into the sensations in your body and the memories of your grief.

As you reach deeper and unravel the cords of grief that have been tangled in you, a different sound may come to you. A wail or a keening or a great screaming cry. It may sound or feel animalistic. Do not be afraid of this sound. Let it rise from you, let it take over for a few moments and escape, taking with it the tangled cords that have kept you bound.

Give yourself time to cry, or scream, or just feel the sensations in your body. Put on some music or start drumming, and let your body move as freely as you are able. Find joy in your movement, do not let it cause you pain. If you have pleasant memories of the person you are grieving, think about those. Visualize a positive outcome for the thing that you are grieving. Visualize healing for yourself.

Once you’re ready, end the movement and sound and start breathing slowly and deeply. Wrap yourself in your shawl, and hug yourself (or have a friend hold you). Sing to yourself if you like. Thank your grief for the lessons it has given you, and thank yourself for giving yourself this time. When you are ready, make yourself something to eat and drink and give a prayer of gratitude to these things too. Do something to take care of yourself, and reach out to a friend. You may be tempted to analyze the experience, but please let your physical and emotional self be with the experience for now. You may like to journal about it later.

You may find that you are unable to go into your grief the first time you give yourself permission, or you may feel like you have much more grieving to do after this. Both of those experiences are valid. Keep trying. Continue to give yourself permission to grieve. Reach out to others for support. You can do this. It is as natural and normal as breathing, and loving.

From my grieving heart to yours.

Playlist suggestions for this work: In Sorrow and Hermitage 
Playlists courtesy Danica Swanson of The Black Stone Hermitage

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A veiled ghost in front of a cave.
Image: Malgorzata Maj